Four and a half years ago my brother met this girl. She was soft spoken, sweet and angelic looking. She was only 21 and my brother was 26. She was from a good family where the mom and dad were married until her father's death. My father and stepmom loved her and saw her as a perfect angel. I knew there was a slight problem when she told me that she liked my brother because he had so much "potential".
My brother and my other family members do not know about this group or anything I stand for.
I looked at her statement to me about my brother's "potential" and asked myself, "Potential for what?" I really know that she meant "money making" potential but I looked at her statement at face value.
"Potential for what?", I thought. Potential to be a top mechanic or a fabulous clothing designer? The sentence she stated was incomplete. Not grammatically but it incomplete in ideas. Did she not have "potential"? Don't we all have "potential" (man or woman)? Potential to be what we want and strive to be? But she saw potential in him to latch on.
My brother gave her a job in a large city as he is second in line from the mayor. My brother negotiated a great salary for her then helped her move to a top accounting firm. She now made $130,000 a year. More than my brother makes.
They saved their money while living rent free in my father's basement. They saved their money until my brother bought a distressed 2 family home, renovated it and started renting it out. He did that 2 more times until he had 6 units paying him top dollar to live in a great home.
They moved to a luxury apartment in the center of the city. The apartment had all the amenities you could ever want. 24 hour gym, pool, sauna, jacuzzi, steam room and sun deck. They were living the life.
Then one day, on my brother's birthday, she packed up her stuff and left him to move in with her mom. (Dependency swap). She swore that she would take all of their joint properties for herself. This was building up for a long time with her claims of lack of attention to her etc.
She texts my brother for a while and then my brother forwards those texts to her mother. The girlfriend gets wise and blocks my brother's texts on her mom's phone. Her mother is appalled at her daughter's actions.
She then texts him something to the effect of, not wanting to communicate with him for 2 weeks and their relationship lacks "consistency"(another incomplete idea). She also granted him permission to have affairs (so arrogant of her) but he is not allowed to move in another girl into their apartment.
That's when I came in. My brother met me at my father's place. My father is 81 years old and full of energy. Before my brother arrived, my father said that my brother should have been "nicer" to this girl as if she was an angelic entity.
My father was quick to take the girl's side claiming that she made more money than my brother. I could not contain myself. I said wait a minute, my brother gave that girl her first job that catapulted her to the job she is in now. He groomed and prepped her for the interview. He also created 3 investment properties with a total of 6 rental units making her and him money on the rents, the home appreciation and the equity. I told my father that my brother takes home little in the job but makes a great deal more with investments. She should be nicer to him.
My brother arrived and confronted me with his girlfriend's demands and her claims of "no consistency" in their relationship.
I told him this, "What consistency did you promise her that you did not fulfill? What consistency is she monitoring while she is imposing a two week silencing period? Life does not promises such consistency why should you offer her more than life will?"
We spent a week together at his home. We never talked much, I mostly listened. I slept on his couch and we would go to the roof deck at night drinking the expensive wine and champagne that she bought for a special occasion. We drank, smoked and talked.
He begged me for my unbiased opinion of his situation. I told him that was an impossibility, as I was his brother but facts are unbiased. I pointed out all the above facts and stated that she was a little girl was having a temper tantrum because she has no idea what she wants but she wants if now and she wants you to provide it to her.
I gave him a game plan, get her back and slowly get rid of her control of their properties. She also needs to submit a pregnancy test if she does come back. If she won't come back, we will buy out her interest, then sue her for half the rent and utilities she owes you on the apartment you jointly agreed to rent.
We've spent a week together and by the end of the week, he decided to take a week off from work to go to Colombia. He's half Colombian.
His first day in Colombia, he met a girl that lived near his aunt's house. They went out together and she paid for everything, food, drink and she had a car to drive him where he needed to go. My brother was shocked. The girl told him that she would love to come to the United States but she would not make the money she is making now. She just wants to be his girlfriend while he is there.
Next month he plans to go to Greece.