Using Dating Apps

Before you go on a single date, you must settle one thing in your mind, you are the prize, not her. There are more women than men in this world because men live harder lives. Men die at work, they die at play, they die at war.

With that reality in mind, know this, any dating app is a holding tank for the absolute bottom of the barrel. The women on these platforms are usually hiding something, overweight, married, much older than they claim, or carrying baggage that would scare off any man in person. Many of them are looking for a virtual relationship only, because showing up in real life would instantly expose the lie. The same deception happens with gay men pretending to be women, using female photos to lure single straight men into virtual affairs.

There is also an entire breed of women who are there purely for validation. They have no intention of meeting anyone in person. They simply want endless attention. They want to be told a thousand times a day that they are beautiful, gorgeous, princesses. Your time and energy are nothing more than free fuel for their ego.

If you are going to use these apps, here is how you protect yourself and set the tone.

1. Get a cheap phone or an app that provides a disposable phone number. Never give out your personal number. Women will run background checks on you before you even meet. If she turns out to be a scammer or a problem, you can drop the number instantly.

2. If you contact her first, or if she contacts you, send this message: "I liked your profile and I am a busy man, here is my number, call me. I do not want either of us to waste time. 212.555.6650. Time is money." Then wait.

3. If she complains, do not reply, block her immediately. If she sends you her number instead, call her in twenty minutes. When she answers, tell her you expected her to call you.

4. Remember, if she is divorced, she broke her vows and her word. If she is a single mother, she already disrespected the structure of a family. Proceed knowing exactly what you are dealing with.

5. Set up the first date as coffee and cake somewhere you do not normally go.

If she agrees to meet, test her immediately by asking her to do something small for you. This could be as simple as wearing her hair a certain way, wearing a specific color or floral print, or bringing gum or aspirin. If she will not do even the smallest thing for you before the first date, you have dodged a major bullet.

If she makes it to a second or third date, require that she bring you something each time. It does not need to cost more than five dollars. This is not about the value of the item, it is about seeing whether she invests in you at all.

A woman who will not give you anything early on is a woman who will take everything later.