"No" Means "No", or Does It?

“Yes” means “Yes,” at this moment,

“Yes” means “No,” if I am not in the mood,

“No” means “No,” unless it means, try harder,

“No” means “Yes,” until I change my mind,

“Maybe” means “Yes,” to keep my options open,

“Maybe” means “No,” when I am unsure,

The Female Collective Think and Act Alike

When I told the women in my life what my ex wife did to me, they would sooner or later turn it around to blame me, then spread rumors that I hated all women. It never ceased to amaze me. Why would every woman I spoke to about my ex immediately blame me, then claim I hated all women, when I was talking about the actions of one? It made no sense.

Over time, I started telling women about my divorce just to watch them blame me for her bad behavior and accuse me of being a woman hater. They blamed me for choosing her, faulted me for “allowing” her to cheat and steal my money. That is like blaming a homeowner for “allowing” burglars to rob the house.

These same women would march on Washington DC if anyone suggested that even one woman was raped because she “allowed” it to happen. The hypocrisy was staggering.

I got so tired of their reactions that I began lying about why I was no longer married. I started saying my ex wife had died, thinking I would finally get nothing more than a “Sorry for your loss” and maybe a question or two.

Wrong. Some women gave me dirty looks and outright accused me of killing her. Others said their condolences, then later told people they “knew” I killed her. No matter what I said, they found a way to turn it into an accusation.

I began calling this phenomenon “The Female Collective,” after The Borg Collective from Star Trek. It was like every woman operated under a shared code, all women are faultless, all men are guilty, and no investigation is ever needed before blaming the man.

Whenever they heard a news story about a woman killing a man, they instantly decided it was his fault.

I see the same warped thinking in politics. If you criticize Barack Hussein Obama, you hate all black people. If Donald J. Trump wants to build a wall on the Mexican border or temporarily ban immigration from seven countries, he is labeled a hater of all Mexicans, Muslims, and immigrants. If he insults one woman, Rosie O’Donnell, they claim he hates all women.

This isn’t logic. This is tribalism weaponized into automatic condemnation.

Why Women "Say" They Are Leaving You

Here are some of the idiotic reasons women have given for breaking up.

1. You didn't love me enough,

2. You never gave me enough attention,

3. We are just not compatible,

4. You didn't control me enough,

5. You always want things done your way,

6. You never think about me,

7. You love your job or your car more than me,

8. We've grown apart,

9. You are abusive,

10. You're too nice,

11. It's just not working out,

12. We are not meant to be together,

13. You are overshadowing me,

14. Your cancer is not going to ruin my life,

15. My ex boyfriend just got early parole and I still love him, he was in for murder,

16. If you don't do X, Y, and Z, I'll find someone who will,

17. If you do X, Y, and Z again, I will leave you,

18. I don't love you anymore, I love him, it's not my fault, it just happened,

19. The nerve of your family telling me I have a drinking problem, I'm leaving you,

20. You lost your job,

21. We need to see other people,

22. You're selfish, stingy, and greedy, I didn't spend money on her kid, we had only been dating a very short time,

23. It's not you, it's me, I need to work on myself, then immediately begins dating another guy,

24. You're too good to be true,

25. I'm confused,

26. I don't know what I want,

Endless Loop Dating

She told me her husband was abusive,
She said he was a jerk,
She told me he cheated on her,
She told me she left him and was not getting a thing,

I took her in,
She told me she loved me,
I proposed,
We got married,

Now she is gone,
I caught her in a lie,
Her story stopped adding up,
We had a fight,

I got arrested,
She took out a protective order on me,
She told the cops and everyone I was abusive,
She called me a jerk to the man she is dating,

She told him I cheated on her,
She took my home and told him it was hers,
I can’t believe he believes her

Women Are Nasty to Men and Other Women

So, the wife of my best friend of over thirty years had an encounter with a nasty woman.

It was 8 AM, she had just left the hospital with a cracked rib diagnosis, and she was in line at Starbucks waiting for her order. A woman with an English accent bumped into her hard.

“Ow,” she said mostly to herself, ignoring the woman who bumped her.

Irritated, the English woman looked her up and down and said in a snobbish tone, “Do you think I am to apologize to you?”

My friend’s wife is not one to start trouble, but she was not going to let this slide. She locked eyes with the woman and said, “No, you do not need to say sorry to me, I need to say sorry to you.

I am sorry that every man you thought was ‘the one’ left you, I am sorry you wasted your youth, I am sorry you go home alone every night, I am sorry that wearing sequin ten inch heels at eight in the morning will never help you find a man.

Look dear, men want three things in a woman, A beautiful face, A beautiful heart, A beautiful vagina,

and frankly, all three of yours are rotten. I am going to get my coffee, be on my way, and forget this conversation. You will remember this day forever. Get a cat and call it a day. Enjoy your coffee.”

The black woman behind the counter asked her, “Are you part black, because you just read that girl like a book?”

You have to love New York City women

Men Are Always Wrong, Women Have No Consequences

If a man cheats, Bad man, poor woman.

If a woman cheats, “She must have had a reason.” “He wasn’t doing enough to keep her happy.” Result: Divorce him, take half his net worth, take the house, take the kids, make him pay for both lawyers.

If a man hits a woman, Bad man! No excuse! Arrest him.

If a woman hits a man, “He must have done something to deserve it.” “She had a reason.”

If a man files for divorce, Bad man. He must pay. Take half his wealth, take half his future income, take his kids.

If a woman files for divorce, He must be the bad guy. He must pay. Take half his wealth, take half his future income, take his kids.

Girls and Delilah

Women are natural informants. They seek a higher authority to crush anyone who stands in their way.

Just like Samson and Delilah.

When GOD is a woman’s ultimate authority, she will go to GOD for guidance. But when she serves herself, she will run to the higher earthly powers.

This is why women initiate 80% of divorces l, they go straight to the higher authority: cops, lawyers, judges. Delilah went to the Philistines. Modern women go to the state.

Women Don't Want a Good Man Until They Are Damaged

Good men are invisible until a woman is worn out.

Until the games stop being fun.
Until her looks fade.
Until she needs a husband.
Until she needs a stepfather for her kid.
Until the man she had children with wants nothing to do with her.

Early in life, most women choose the wrong men. They ride the excitement until those men chew them up and spit them out.

Then suddenly, the “boring” good man she ignored is the prize she’s chasing.

The same man she dismissed.

The same man she wouldn’t give the time of day.

Understand this, the hoe phase is real. If she’s still in it, you’ll never touch her. You’ll only be considered after it’s over, and that could be ten years later.

Good men get the leftovers.

Bad men get the prime years.

Good men inherit the damage.
The insecurities.
The trauma.
The rage.
The children that aren’t theirs.

Women Sold Themselves Short

Women sold themselves short. They traded an apron, a loyal husband, and a strong family for independence, loneliness, and a career that never ends. They gave up the chance to build a legacy for the illusion of freedom, only to grow old regretting the family they could have had while chasing a job that killed their femininity.

My Advice to a Newlywed Man

A friend of mine, despite my warnings, got married for the third time. He was 36, she was 24. She had a three-year-old daughter, he had an eleven-year-old son and an eight-year-old daughter. Within months she started the same routine I have seen a hundred times:

• “You always do this.”
• “You never do that.”
• “You should do this more.”
• “You shouldn’t do that.”
• “Why do you always…?”
• “You should tell me when you do that.”
• “Why do we always have to…?”

It became relentless. He came to me for advice. I told him, “Every time she finds something wrong with you, tell her to go find a perfect man.” He hesitated, afraid she might leave. I told him if she left, his problems with her would be over.

He took my advice. Not long after, she called me saying, “Your friend wants to divorce me.” I acted as if I didn’t know why and asked questions to hear her side. Eventually, I said, “So every time you point out something he does wrong, he tells you to go find a perfect man?”

Then I laid it out: “This man has a house, two cars, two kids he drives to school every day, and he includes your daughter in his daily life. Yet you find ten problems with him every day?”

She paused, then started with, “But I do this because…”

I cut her off. “Are you perfect? Do you ask permission for everything you do? Would you want someone nitpicking your every move?”

It was like a light switch flipped. She asked, “Do I really do that?”

I told her, “I don’t know. I’m not there all day.”

I think she finally understood.

This Is How Cold Some Women Can Be

He gave his wife a kidney, saved her life, paid every bill, and cared for her until she was healthy again. The moment she recovered, she divorced him, took the children, and demanded more.

In court, the judge was stunned. “You want the house, you want him to keep paying the mortgage, and you want child support? This man gave you his kidney.”

She answered without shame. “That’s because he loves me. I don’t love him. He’s a great man, I’ve never said he wasn’t, but he’s just not good enough for me. He deserves a woman who truly loves him.”

The room went silent. People could not believe what they had heard.

She looked around and said, “What? At least I’m being honest.”

Why Are Women Even Allowed to Work and Earn College Degrees?

As of 2024, total student loan debt sits at $1.6 trillion. Women hold over 67 percent of it. That is $1 trillion in debt owed by women. Over 60 percent of college degrees are now held by women.

Many of these women spend their prime years chasing degrees instead of building relationships. They believe status will make them more attractive to men, the same way they view a man’s education as desirable. They think that if they achieve enough status, a high-caliber man will marry them, pay off their student loans, and give them the financial stability to quit working.

It is a strategy built on the belief that a man should be the reward for her ambition, and the solution to the debt she chose to create.

Female Communication #3

Him: What’s wrong? Her: Nothing. Him: Are you sure? You seem upset. Her: Nothing’s wrong. I’m OK. Him: OK, I was just checking.

Her mind: Why didn’t he ask me a third time? I was ready to tell him if he had just asked once more. He must not love me anymore.

Female Communication #2

Most of the time, women communicate with men through hints. They speak in statements or questions laced with hidden meanings. That is only half the problem. Because she speaks in hints, she assumes your direct statements also contain hidden meanings.

She may ask, “Are you going to wear that suit to the event tomorrow?”

You, as a man, answer “Yes” or “No.” But the hidden meaning behind her question is disapproval. Your direct answer will be taken as dismissive, proof in her mind that you do not care about her feelings.

If you ask her a direct question like, “Do you want to order takeout tonight?” she may interpret it as a hint that you hate her cooking. She will fill in the blanks with the worst possible scenario.

Even something as simple as, “Are you going to work tomorrow?” can turn into a trap. She may not see a direct question. She may pause, suspicious, and ask, “What do you mean by that?”

I have seen countless interviews where a woman is asked a direct question, yet she answers as if the real question is hidden between the words. It is how she hears the world.

Female Communication #1

She will complain to her friends and family that you are not giving her what she never asked for. She will be angry that you cannot read her mind. In her mind, if you truly loved her, you would magically know what she wants.

She believes telling you directly would ruin the gesture because it would not come from you naturally. So she drops hints. But hints are not communication, they are games.

She feels betrayed when you do not give her what she wanted, but the truth is she betrayed herself. She set impossible expectations. Her own refusal to communicate clearly built the wall between you and her, and she will still blame you for it.

Why Are Girls Attracted to Married Men?

The answer is simple but layered. Many men notice that when they are single, women reject them. Once they have a girlfriend, other women suddenly show interest. Several forces may be at work:

1. A man carries himself with more confidence when he has a partner.

2. Women use social proof, seeing another woman choose him as proof of his value.

3. She is drawn to the forbidden nature of pursuing a taken man.

4. She sees the girlfriend as a rival and wants to even the score by sleeping with her man.

5. She envies the girlfriend's looks or status and wants to take what she has.

6. She sees how well he treats his woman and wants to punish her own man for not doing the same.

7. She wants to break them up so she can have him for herself.

We Are Not in the Same Boat

I am 58 years old and have my daily coffee at a local restaurant bar. I often chat with the female bartender and sometimes share stories about my past relationships. I could tell she doubted some of them.

One day, as I was telling her how long I have been single, a woman in her 50s walked up and handed me her business card. She said, “You’re single? I’m single too. We single people need to stick together. We’re in the same boat.”

I took her card and replied, “We are not in the same boat. We are in the same storm.”

Her card said she was a branch manager at a bank down the street. Over the next few days she came back to the bar with a laptop, pretending to work while sitting near me. The bartenders, knowing my vision is limited, kept watch. They told me she kept glancing at me, waiting for me to make a move.

Every time she left, they said she walked out frustrated.

I will not be fooled again.

Are Women Good at Multitasking?

Women love to claim they are great multitaskers, yet they put relationships on hold to chase degrees and careers. When they are finally ready for a family, they expect a man who can juggle keeping them happy, keeping his customers happy, and keeping his bosses happy, all at the same time, while they focus only on running the household.

If they are such great multitaskers, why can they not handle school, work, and spending time with a man who wants to build a family?

Breakups: Men Vs. Women

A man will end a relationship based on what a woman did.

A woman will end a relationship based on what a man did not do, specifically what she expected him to do despite all the hints she thinks she gave him. Afterward, she may still claim he wronged her.

This May Be the Hardest Pill to Swallow

If you were raised by a single mother who filled your head with stories about how badly your father treated her, it may be time to reevaluate. She may have been attracted to that man, whether he was a substance abuser, violent, a con artist, a liar, a cheat, or a criminal. Or she may have exaggerated, lied, or provoked him until he snapped.