Are Women Good at Multitasking?

Women love to claim they are great multitaskers, yet they put relationships on hold to chase degrees and careers. When they are finally ready for a family, they expect a man who can juggle keeping them happy, keeping his customers happy, and keeping his bosses happy, all at the same time, while they focus only on running the household.

If they are such great multitaskers, why can they not handle school, work, and spending time with a man who wants to build a family?

Hints: Her Passive Aggressive Way of Communicating

There is a common pattern in how many women communicate, and it shows up in ordinary situations. This is not about emotion itself, and it is not about confusion that happens by accident. It is about a choice to hint instead of speak plainly, and the confusion that follows from that choice.

A simple example is ordering food. When he asks her what she wants to eat, she says anything. He takes that answer seriously and starts suggesting options, Chinese, pizza, burgers, Mexican, Greek. She turns each one down. The issue is not indecision. She already knows what she wants. Instead of saying it directly, she chooses to hint and hopes he lands on the right answer. When that does not happen, frustration appears.

Another common example happens while driving. A man and a woman are going down the highway. She is hungry. Up ahead, she sees a sign for a corporate fast food restaurant. Instead of saying she wants to stop, she turns to him and asks, are you hungry. He hears the words and answers honestly. He says no, I am not hungry. To him, the exchange is complete. But that was not what she meant. What she was actually trying to communicate, in her hinting and encoded way, was that she wanted to stop because she was hungry. She could have said, can we stop for a break, I want to get something to eat, and he likely would have said yes without hesitation. Instead, she chose to encode the request, and then became annoyed that he did not decode the message she never clearly sent. She engineered the situation that frustrated her.

Another familiar situation happens around plans. She asks him if he is going out with his friends tomorrow. He answers yes, because that is the question she asked. After that, her tone shifts. She becomes quieter or distant. She was not asking for information. She was hinting that she did not like the plan. Instead of saying that clearly, she left it implied.

Then there is the phrase go away. Sometimes when she says go away, she truly means leave me alone. Other times she means stay, chase me, show effort. Those are opposite messages using the same words. When he responds literally, he risks being wrong either way. The problem is not his response. The problem is the lack of clarity.

Smaller examples happen all the time. When she says I am fine, it often means she is not fine. When she says do whatever you want, there are usually unspoken limits. When she says it is up to you, she may already have a preferred outcome in mind. The words sound clear, but the expectations are hidden.

This way of communicating fits what is commonly called passive aggressive communication. It is not loud or openly hostile. It shows up as indirectness, hints, and emotional pressure without direct statements. Responsibility for understanding gets shifted onto the listener, and when he gets it wrong, he is blamed for not picking up the hint.

Men tend to respond to words as they are spoken. When hints replace clear statements, communication turns into guesswork. Confusion is not caused by a lack of care. It is caused by indirect language.

The result is unnecessary tension. Conversations become about what she meant instead of what she said. Small situations turn into problems that never needed to exist.

What fixes this is not men becoming better decoders. What fixes this is women speaking their mind clearly instead of encoding meaning and hoping it is interpreted correctly. Saying what she wants, what she feels, or what she expects is not harsh. It is effective. Clear language gives the other person a real chance to respond properly.

When words are direct, communication improves.

When expectations are spoken, misunderstandings shrink.

And when meaning is stated instead of hinted at, everyday life gets easier for everyone involved.

Words are meant to communicate, not to test.

Just to make this clear imagine asking someone if they are hungry when you are the one who wants something to eat. Imagine telling someone to do what they want while secretly expecting something very specific from them. How would that person interpret your state of mind if you said you were fine but expected them to interrogate you and pry out what you actually want. How would they know what to do if you told them anything would be all right while holding a specific outcome in your head. Imagine questioning someone’s actions instead of plainly stating what you want them to do. You have just stepped into the mindset of a woman.

This May Be the Hardest Pill to Swallow

If you were raised by a single mother who filled your head with stories about how badly your father treated her, it may be time to reevaluate. She may have been attracted to that man, whether he was a substance abuser, violent, a con artist, a liar, a cheat, or a criminal. Or she may have exaggerated, lied, or provoked him until he snapped.

Ask Her Qualifying Questions

Ask her about the man who loved her the most, and she will call him boring. She wanted entertainment, not stability.

Ask her about the man she loved the most, and she will say he was abusive and a cheater.

Make no mistake, women are often drawn to men who cheat or have the potential to cheat. If her man does not cheat, she may invent stories that he did. This victim narrative gains her sympathy and attracts other men who want to rescue her.

Ask her if she would have treated her first boyfriend better if she had known he would be the last man in her life. If she says yes, she admits she mistreated him.

Be cautious. Keep your distance or see her only as casual. She will likely never be satisfied.

Sperm Jacking Is Real

A hotel maid, while cleaning a suite, found a used condom in the trash. Knowing the occupant was wealthy, she took the contents and inserted them into herself. She became pregnant and sued the man for child support. With DNA results and her story, the courts ruled in her favor and awarded her a large sum.

Coaches warn new athletes to dispose of condoms immediately and properly after use.

What would happen if there were a law blocking any woman from collecting child support unless she was married to the father or if the DNA did not match?

And what should happen to the child and the wife if the child she gave birth to is not her husband’s?

Have You Been Home Wrecked?

Home wrecking is when a woman deliberately sabotages a relationship for her own gain. She may call your girlfriend or wife and lie about your supposed infidelity. The sad truth is this tactic often works because many women will take another woman's word without investigation. They will react emotionally based on the shock of the accusation. Your partner may not even tell you about the anonymous call from this manipulative Jezebel.

Has your wife or girlfriend ever accused you of cheating out of nowhere?

Possible reasons for these sudden accusations:

1. She is angry at you for something you said or did at work or in your social circle.

2. She sees you as a great catch and wants you and your partner to break up so she can step in and console you.

3. Your girlfriend or wife angered her.

4. She is jealous and wants your relationship to fail because you have something she does not.

Summary of Today's Modern Woman

Today's woman wants a personal slave.

Provide me food.
Provide me shelter.
Provide me clothes.
Provide me protection.
Provide me attention.
Provide me compliments.
Provide me entertainment.
Provide me luxuries.
Provide me travel.
Provide me adventure.
Provide me drama.
Provide me jewelry.
Provide me happiness.
Provide me emotional care.

Make me feel special.
Make me feel comfortable.
Make me happy.

Commit to me on my terms, but I will never commit to you.
Love me and honor me, but I will never put in the effort to love you.
Love me.
Protect me.
Provide for me.
Praise me.
Fight for me even when I am wrong.

I will measure, question, and challenge your love for me, but you are never allowed to do the same.

Be taller than me.
Be stronger than me.
Be faster than me.
Be richer than me.
Be older than me.
Be nice when I demand it.
Never be too nice.
Be strong when I need strength.
Be sensitive when I want sensitivity.

Be my doctor.
Be my lawyer.
Be my therapist.

Pay my rent.
Pay my bills.
Pay me attention.
Pay me compliments.

And if you do all that, I owe you nothing. You cannot tell me anything.

Listen to my problems but do not solve them unless I present them in the way I want them solved.
Do not tell me your problems, I will see you as weak and lose respect for you.
I will use your words to shame and humiliate you in public.

Tiptoe around my insecurities from my past toxic men I chose over you.
If you have insecurities from your past, that is your fault. I will ignore them, mock them, and dismiss them.

I want a leader. Lead me only where I want to go. Lead me how I want to be led. Lead me when I want leadership. Never guide me where you want me to go. If you fail to lead me exactly as I demand, I will take control and leave you.

I will never forgive your mistakes, but you better forgive mine.

If I raise my status with degrees, income, or attention, you must raise yours too or I will leave.
I will only accept you if you are six feet tall or taller, if you make six figures or more, if you have six pack abs. You must accept me no matter how I look, how I act, or how much I make.

They say relationships are hard work, so you must work hard to understand me and make me happy.
I do not know what makes me happy, but you better find it.

I will not cook for you, provide me a chef and an assistant. I will not clean for you, provide me a maid.

If you give me more than any woman in history, it might still not be enough.
Work more.
Work better.
Work faster.
Work longer.

If you do everything I demand, you are weak.
If you do not, I do not want you.

If I lie, it is your fault for believing me.
If I swindle you, it is your fault for trusting me.
If I cheat, it is your fault for choosing me.

I will speak in hints and expect you to know exactly what I mean because communication is key.
I will never tell you what I want, but I will tell everyone you are not giving it to me.

I will find your weaknesses and exploit them. If you fall for my manipulation, you are too weak, so I will keep trying.

If I cheat, you must forgive me.
If I even imagine you cheated, I will destroy you, take everything, and keep your children from you.

Be better in bed than the hundred men before you.
Take care of me and my children from other men who failed me.
Give me everything I want because I am worth it.

I will insult, guilt, cry, manipulate, complain, and nag until you do what I want. I will never simply ask.

I am allowed to hit you, but if you touch me, I will have you arrested.

If you please me and my kids, I will still divorce you, take your home, your pension, your money, and more. You will pay child support for children I will withhold from you and alimony because I want it. This will prove I am independent and do not need a man.

I am the prize. Get on your knee and offer yourself to me. But others can still take me from you at any time.

I am not like other girls.

And remember, we are equal.

On Her Level

Most modern women want a man on her self-defined level or higher. This level is vague, subjective, and changes from woman to woman, but it almost always comes down to his income, status, height, and looks.

For the sake of this point, say she rates herself as a level 5. She will demand a man who is a 6 or higher, factoring in whatever components she decides matter at the moment.

The very fact that she seeks a man on a higher level is a red flag, and here is why:

1. What happens if she raises herself to a 7 in her mind and decides he is still the same? In her eyes, he is falling behind.

2. What happens when time passes and she decides his level is now lower than hers?

3. What if his level rises to a 10 or 12 while she drops to a 3 or 4?

4. Do you think she will stay if she believes she is above him?

5. Do you think her self-assessment is inflated?

6. Do you think her assessment of your value is accurate?

Regardless of her perception, you will still be expected to pay all the bills, open her doors, and kiss her feet while she saves her money for herself. You will be her personal servant, expected to fight and die for her, while she sees it as beneath her to even get you a glass of water.

Women like this say things like, "He needs to keep up with me" and "I might give him a chance." Imagine a woman thinking she is offering you the privilege of becoming her servant.

The truth is she is not looking for a man to love, honor, or respect. She is looking for a man to raise her status and income while looking down on him as her provider and protector. A man should never provide for or protect someone who uses him. A man should provide for and protect only those who respect him.

They Never Stop Looking for Their Provider #2

I have been writing these articles since I was 42. Now at 61, I see the pattern clearly. When a woman starts talking about having a companion, she is often hinting that you should consider her for that role. Women speak in hints, and this is one of their favorites.

For most of my life, my female friends were married, had children with the same man, and had never been divorced. I believed they were devoted to their husbands and families. I made it a point to know their husbands personally.

Recently I have noticed that some of these same women, now my age, approach me when their husbands become sick or retire. They start by pushing the idea that I need a companion. Later I learn their husbands are either in the hospital or no longer working.

One woman even cried to me, “How can I travel to Europe to see my family if my husband retires? Does he only think about himself?”

The real meaning behind that is, “How dare he stop working after 40 years without asking me” or “How dare my provider stop providing for me.”

I am not anyone’s Prince Charming, but I have been single for 25 years and have made enough money to support a wife and family. To some women, that alone qualifies me as a potential provider.

But I will not be mom’s boyfriend. I will not be grandma’s boyfriend.

They Never Stop Looking for Their Provider #1

A female friend I had known for 21 years called out of the blue to have coffee. We had not seen each other since the pandemic. I was 60, she was 63, her husband was 72. We had worked together in various ways over the years. I had met her husband a few times. We even ran into each other in the Hamptons one summer. Her husband owned a shipping company. We got along fine.

She and I used to talk on the phone about news and movies. I was comfortable with her because she had been with her husband since she was 16.

We met at a bagel deli in Manhattan. We hugged, exchanged pleasantries, asked about each other’s families. She said everyone was fine.

After about 30 minutes she asked, “Why are you still single?”

I thought she knew, but I said it anyway. “I am not going through that again. Women hate men.”

She replied with the standard line, “You just picked the wrong women.”

I told her, “I picked the wrong women. My neighbors picked the wrong women. My family picked the wrong women. My friends, classmates, coworkers, all picked the wrong women. Everyone is picking the wrong women, but the women are never wrong for their actions. Besides, I do not have the money, knowledge, energy, patience, or time to make a woman happy.”

She snickered. “Don’t be silly. You need to open your mind. I heard you are doing well for yourself. It is not hard to make a woman happy.”

I snapped. “I will not provide for and protect another woman who has backstabbed all of her previous men, only to backstab me for doing the same. I will not be used again.”

She smiled. “I’m sure you will find someone you fall in love with. It’s just a matter of time.”

My anger grew. I told her, “I have loved many women and been betrayed every time. I want a woman to pick me because I am the right one. I want her to love me. I want her to reach into her pockets and buy me a car, a watch, and a dinner or two. What woman, with no history of loyalty or respect, should I devote my life and earnings to protect? All I am offered now is a position of servitude as mom’s boyfriend or grandma’s boyfriend. I will not provide for another man’s wife or raise another man’s child.”

She brushed it off. “That’s dumb. You’re paranoid. Not all women are out to get you. You need a loving woman beside you.”

I wondered why she was pushing so hard. I told her bluntly, “Let’s get off the subject. I don’t want to talk about it. If we keep talking about this, I will leave. I don’t want to offend you, but if you continue, I will have no choice.”

She got the message. We changed the subject for about 10 minutes. Then she checked her watch, said she had to go. I walked her to her building, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek, and apologized for my tone.

Three weeks later, she called me crying. Her husband was in the hospital and might not make it. I tried to console her. She said he had pancreatic cancer and may not have long. Then she told me he had been admitted to the hospital about a month ago.

In case you missed it, here is the timeline: her husband went into the hospital. Three weeks later she met me, told me everyone was fine, then tried to sell me on getting a companion. One week later she called with the news.

She never realized what she had admitted. That was months ago. I am sure her husband has passed. She has not called me about it since. While he was in the hospital, she was hunting for her next provider. Maybe she found him.

She Obeys Her Enemies

Therapy is code for a dependency on others to think and analyze for her.

What most people do not understand is that women are dependent on others for almost everything they do. They consult psychics, therapists, astrologers, and their female friends, who often guide them to fail because they do not want their friends to rise above them in status.

The modern woman obeys and submits to astrologers, psychics, therapists, jealous girlfriends, lawyers, psychiatrists, and doctors who prescribe harmful mood-altering drugs. Yet she is combative toward the man who professes his love for her, using shaming tactics, insults, humiliation, guilt trips, nagging, and constant arguments.

In short, she obeys everyone who profits from her loss while spitting on the man who loves her.

But That's My Money

My childhood friend married a widowed mother. Her first husband died while working as a maintenance worker on the Verrazzano-Narrows Bridge in New York City. My friend vowed to provide for and protect her and her daughter.

They later had three more daughters. The apartment was too small, so he started working nights and weekends, seven days a week, to save for a down payment on a house. This went on for two years.

He finally bought a small home built in 1957. It was modest but bigger than the apartment. He promised to add a second floor so all four daughters could have their own rooms.

He worked as a bouncer on the side and sometimes drove a limousine. Many nights he slept in my living room because he was too exhausted to drive home. I often packed food for him since I was single and cooked in large portions.

He hired an architect and took an apprentice job as a carpenter to make the expansion happen. By September, the second floor was finished after years of planning. Halloween came and went. Thanksgiving was in the new house. Then came Christmas.

With little money left, he still bought a Christmas tree, decorations, and presents for the whole family. Just before New Year’s, the boiler broke. He told the family they would have to brave the cold with blankets and space heaters until they could fix it.

One day, he picked up the mail and accidentally opened his wife’s bank statement, thinking it was a credit card bill. The balance was $180,000. Shocked, he showed her. She snatched it from his hands and shouted, “That’s my money!”

When he asked where it came from, she said it was from her late husband’s insurance policy. He asked when she got it. She said while she was pregnant with their first child.

He asked when she was going to tell him. She kept repeating, “That’s my money.”

He reminded her he had worked two and three jobs, seven days a week, for years to buy the house. She snapped, “You wanted to work those jobs.”

He asked if she would have let the kids freeze without a boiler. She replied, “That’s your job, and that’s my money.”

He made her sign over the money. He repaired the boiler, completed the second floor, bought a new car, and opened four investment accounts for his daughters’ futures.

3 Musts If You Are Getting Married

If you’re stupid enough to marry a broad (bird if you’re from the UK, Sheila if you’re an Aussie), remember this:

1. Prenup.

2. Postnup.

3. Amendments on every anniversary.

Lock it down in writing. Every year. Terms and conditions updated regularly. Love doesn’t hold up in court, contracts do.

Women Will Almost Never Be Generous

Hetty Green, known as The Witch of Wall Street, is listed in the Guinness Book of World Records as the stingiest woman in history. Her net worth in today’s dollars was over $5.4 billion.

Despite her extreme wealth, she married a millionaire and lived on leftover cakes and broken biscuits from a nearby bakery.

She caused her own son to lose his leg because she wasted time looking for a free clinic instead of paying a hospital bill.

She died in 1916 at the age of 81 from a stroke while arguing with her maid over a pay raise.

Men and Women Lie

I was at a gathering with three men and four women when one woman suddenly blurted, “Men are dogs. They lie all the time to get what they want from us women.”

The men turned to me, knowing I was about to say something the women would not like.

I said, “Yes, men lie. They say, ‘I love you,’ or, ‘You are the most beautiful woman in the world,’ and you eat it up. Do you really believe it when a man says you are the most beautiful woman on the planet? But women lie too. They say, ‘You are the father,’ or, ‘He was abusive.’ The truth is, both sexes lie.”

One woman huffed. “You are generalizing. Not all women are like that. You cannot judge all women like that.”

I responded, “You started this conversation by saying men are dogs and that they lie all the time. Was that not a generalization? Was that not a judgment? I gave examples of both sexes lying, but you only defended women. Did I not also make examples about men? Why did you jump to defend women as if I only criticized them? Why do you excuse negative generalizations about men but take offense when it is about women?”

She said, “You made it seem like women are evil.”

I replied, “I never said that. I spoke about both sides equally. I do not understand your concern.”

She thought she ended the conversation by saying, “You hate women,” as the other women nodded in agreement.

I said, “Are you not a hater of men if you make such negative statements about men?”

I know, I ruin the party sometimes.

The Many Powers That Men Have

Men have the rare ability to shut out everything and focus entirely on one thing until the job is done. You see it when a man is watching his game of choice and nothing anyone says or does breaks his focus until the commercial break.

Men also have the ability to self-sacrifice for the good of the team. "Take one for the team" is not just a phrase. In WWI and WWII, men threw themselves on live grenades to save their brothers in arms.

Women think everything is connected to everything else.

1. How she looks depends on how others see her.

2. How she feels depends on how she looks.

3. How successful she is depends on how she feels.

After 60 years of the feminist movement, they still believe the smartest business move they can make is to marry the right man. Once again, dependency on others.

Every story about why women cheat centers on her dependence. Listen to her words: "He didn't make me happy," "He made me upset," "He made me feel unwanted," "He made me cry." Then when she is pleased: "He makes me feel good," "He makes me feel confident," "He makes me laugh," "He makes me smile."

There is always an outside source she depends on. Always.

Mommy / Daughter Day

Single mothers and married mothers looking to upgrade their husbands will often take their daughters out to socialize. The mother uses her daughter’s presence to attract men while blocking any man who shows more interest in the daughter than in her.

Man: “Hey, you two look like sisters.”

That kind of line makes the mother tingle inside.

Just like a fat, unattractive friend will chase off men interested in her better-looking friend, the mother will run interference for herself. In these situations, a second man is often needed to take one for the team by charming the mother or the chubby friend so the other man can pursue his target.

Women Love Jerks

Let’s face it, women are often drawn to bad men. I have spent a lifetime searching for someone who could be a wife and a loving mother in a stable home. Yet the more love you show, the more disrespect you get.

Women will cry over the abusive man who left them, run to your arms for comfort, let you restore them, and then leave you for another abuser. It is like a boxer retreating to the corner between rounds to be patched up, only to step right back into the fight. She uses the man with resources for stability but always goes back to the one who hurts her. She may even tell the next man you were abusive because victimhood has value when it goes unchallenged.

I know this too well. Over 24 years of relationships, I have watched women I cared about betray me for abusive men.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, care for her, provide for her, and protect her, she will often leave you for another abuser, only to become a damsel in distress again. She enjoys the rescue.

I do not drink, smoke, or use drugs. I have never been to prison. I live clean and I have always made sure the women I dated had similar values. Yet many of my exes told me horror stories about abusive, deceptive, and violent men they dated before me. And after we broke up, most went to men even worse.

Two of my exes ended up with heroin addicts. Three others, including my ex-wife, chose heavy drinkers. One dated a man already married with two kids, who also had another child with a different woman in his home country. At the same time, he had two women pregnant, one in the Bronx and another in Washington Heights.

One ex dated a car thief. I read later in the news that he took her on a joyride in a stolen car. It ended in a high-speed chase on the Long Island Expressway, a crash, and a hospital bed. He was paralyzed. She had multiple broken bones.

Another moved in with a felon on parole. Yet another fell under the control of a pimp.

People hear this and say, “You picked the wrong women,” or, “Where do you find these women?”

My answer is simple: How can anyone predict someone’s future choices? Should I have earned a Ph.D. in human behavior by the age of 19 just to date?

This is not just my experience. I have seen the same pattern in the lives of friends, family, coworkers, classmates, and neighbors. It shows up on social media, in YouTube videos, and everywhere else.

Corrections officers across the country will tell you most male inmates have children with multiple women who visit them regularly. Some even start new relationships from prison. High-profile violent criminals receive love letters from women all over the world after they are arrested.

There is even a trend where women in church prison ministries leave their husbands and children, give up alimony and shared property, and marry inmates serving long sentences or life.

Promiscuity: Male Vs. Female

If you put a good woman in front of a man who has slept with a thousand women, he will value her because men judge women by who they are in the present, not by their past. He will protect her, care for her, and see her as something worth keeping.

But if you put the best man in front of a woman who has slept with more than five men, she will pick him apart piece by piece. She will focus on every flaw, real or imagined, because women judge men by their ability to measure up to every man she has ever been with. Her mind will compare, her ego will test, and her loyalty will falter the second she feels she can “do better.”

Men forgive a woman’s past when they see present value. Women punish a man in the present for not matching the fantasy she built from her past. That is why a man can cherish a woman who has been through hell, but a woman will discard a man who doesn’t measure up to her smallest expectation.

I Can Do Better

When a man says he can do better, he rolls up his sleeves and gets to work. He grinds through long nights, sacrifices comfort, learns new skills, takes risks, and eats failure for breakfast until he creates something worth respecting. He builds himself from the ground up because he knows no one is coming to save him.

When a woman says she can do better, she doesn’t roll up her sleeves, she rolls her eyes and looks for a man who has already built the life she wants to step into. She scans for success someone else has bled for, a lifestyle someone else earned, and positions herself to enjoy the rewards without enduring the process.

A man’s “better” comes from what he creates.

A woman’s “better” too often comes from who she can attach herself to after the work is already done.