Most of the time, women communicate with men through hints. They speak in statements or questions laced with hidden meanings. That is only half the problem. Because she speaks in hints, she assumes your direct statements also contain hidden meanings.
She may ask, “Are you going to wear that suit to the event tomorrow?”
You, as a man, answer “Yes” or “No.” But the hidden meaning behind her question is disapproval. Your direct answer will be taken as dismissive, proof in her mind that you do not care about her feelings.
If you ask her a direct question like, “Do you want to order takeout tonight?” she may interpret it as a hint that you hate her cooking. She will fill in the blanks with the worst possible scenario.
Even something as simple as, “Are you going to work tomorrow?” can turn into a trap. She may not see a direct question. She may pause, suspicious, and ask, “What do you mean by that?”
I have seen countless interviews where a woman is asked a direct question, yet she answers as if the real question is hidden between the words. It is how she hears the world.
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