A woman will tell you she wants love. She’ll say she wants a good man. She’ll talk about character, integrity, loyalty, and how much she values family. But watch what happens when the bills come due. When the rent is late, when the car needs fixing, when her friend gets a new ring from a richer man. Suddenly that “good man” she chose ain’t so good anymore. His love no longer pays. His heart is not accepted as currency. His loyalty is worthless compared to what another man’s bank account can buy.
She will eject a man from her family the same way a company fires a worker who can’t keep up with productivity. One missed paycheck and the man is no longer husband material. One lost job and the father is no longer “good for the kids.” His love is dismissed as insufficient. His role as father erased like chalk on a board. Because in her eyes, a man who can’t provide is a man who doesn’t deserve to stay.
Examples are everywhere. A woman marries a man who works hard, breaks his back to support his family. But the moment her coworker brags about her husband’s six-figure job and surprise vacations to Bora Bora, she starts asking, “Why can’t you do that for me?” His hard work becomes invisible. His sacrifices become expected. And when he doesn’t upgrade her lifestyle, she upgrades the man.
She’ll file for divorce, take the kids, and go after alimony and child support like a bounty hunter. Suddenly the same man who used to rock their baby to sleep is now labeled a “deadbeat.” Not because he stopped loving his children but because he couldn’t meet her new financial standard. She doesn’t care that he’s hurting. She doesn’t care that he’s sleeping in a car. All she sees is that she can extract money from his existence through the court system. She wants the child support payments but not the father.
There are women who keep the child but drop the man the moment a wealthier option becomes available. They use the children as pawns. They keep the father away and say, “He’s not contributing.” When in truth, he couldn’t give her the lifestyle she craves. So she trades love for luxury. She trades the presence of a father for the presence of funds.
Let’s be honest. This is prostitution in disguise. When a woman leaves a man because another man has more money, what else can you call it? She sells herself to the highest bidder. She uses her body and the threat of emotional abandonment as leverage. She will smile at a man while mentally calculating his worth like a product on Amazon.
He is not a man to her. He is a means to an end. A paycheck. A provider. A tool. And once he no longer performs, he gets discarded like last season’s handbag. The love was never real. It was a contract with fine print: “As long as you provide the lifestyle I demand, I’ll pretend to love you.”
Men must see this for what it is. You are not loved for who you are. You are loved for what you can do. For how deep your pockets are. She does not want you. She wants what you bring.
You’re the mule. She’s the merchant. And when you can’t carry the load, she’ll replace you and call it empowerment.
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